I stole this post from my other blog because I felt like it was relevant to both. :-) I happened across the following quote recently and it really got me thinking.
Beware of the gratuitous quotes in this entry. I liked the color and they are just so well said, I couldn't help it!
This quote caused a lot of feelings for me. I've had some recent relationships where if I were to ask a question about a female friend of my significant other or express a concern about certain boundaries being crossed, it is usually met with the accusation that I am overreacting and being jealous. For the most part I have a good perspective and am emotionally stable, so I felt like this was unfair and inaccurate for my boyfriends to make me feel this way. When I read this quote a wave of relief washed over me because it exactly put into words how I had been feeling for so long. What is so wrong with protecting whats yours anyway? There are definitely women out there who get satisfaction and enjoyment from stealing other women's men. They don't abide by girl code. I have experienced it multiple times as I'm sure most women have. We do have to stand up for ourselves and our relationships sometimes and protect them from people who want to interfere and break them up. For one I always make a conscious effort to respect those relationships and boundaries. This is probably why I have never had many male friends that were strictly just friends. Can men and women ever just be friends? I will write more on that topic later. Back to my point, it always flatters me when my boyfriends express slight jealousy for me. This is why:
On that same note a little jealousy is healthy if the relationship is strong. It is born from love and is a basic human emotion. The problem arises and it gets out of control when the other person or your own irrational fear makes you feel like that person would be more fulfilled by someone else instead of you. When the jealousy starts becoming unhealthy and causing damage to the relationship, then it's time to take another look at what's really going on and where the real problem lies. Something is definitely broken at that point. If you find it early it can still be fixed. Just like intimacy I feel like the amount of jealousy happening in a relationship is a huge indicator for the relationship status. I do feel it is a late sign though, once it gets out of control things can unravel quickly, very quickly.
Let me leave you with one last quote that pretty perfectly sums it all up for me:
So don't be afraid of some salt in moderation. Cheers my dears it's Friday!